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Close you eyes. Imagine being little, having a little body and living in the world of "giants" and imagine being told what to do or what not to do all day long. Yes, children need order, boundaries and schedule but they don't like being told what to do all day long. Remind yourself that even though your children have small bodies, they have big spirits and big personalities that needs to be recognized.

I remember as child being told to say "thank you", "you are welcome", "Please" all the time and I also remember resisting it. I didn't like saying these words. I never wanted to say "thank you" not because I wasn't thankful because of the pressure that was placed upon me as a child. As a mother now, I start remembering many things about my own childhood and recently I realized that when my mother asked me to do something, she never said "please" or
" will you" or "you are welcome" but I was expected to say it. No wonder I resistant.
Today, I don't tell my daughter what to say. I show her by example. I thank others for sharing a toy, I say please when I want my daughter to do something etc.

We teach by example, we don't teach by simply saying the right words.