Perfection or growth?

As parent, it is very normal to get overwhelmed and stressed. Demands of life and responsibilities bring more stress and more frustration into our parenting space. The question is "Why so much overwhelm and demand as parent, where is the joy in parenting?"
Stress and overwhelm usually happens when we try to do everything perfectly, when we try to please others before we even have the chance to look into the mirror in the morning. The truth is we can't do everything perfectly because perfection leads to static, perfection is non-movement. More we try to get to the point of perfection, more we get stuck and hence more stress. There are also many expectations from us as parents; people expect us to have our children behave at all time, our families place their own expectations upon us as a new family, moms expect their daughter to raise their children just the way they did it etc. So very often we spend most of our creative energy trying to fit within this expectations and we forget about our own intuition and information.
Family is not about having the house clean at all time, make sure everything is perfect, dinner is ready on time everyday etc. Family space is certainly not about being a perfect wife or husband, a perfect parent. Daily routines and activities are very important; cooking is a very creative space and cleaning has its own satisfaction but when we try to do it perfectly or from a space of overwhelm, it becomes a chore and another thing on our to do list that we don't really want to do but have to.
Family is space of growth and play. There should be permission to play, to laugh, to cry, to have tantrums,to break objects, to make mistakes, to have new experiences and to be who you want to be. As we grow and change so will our family space. There is always movement and change in this space. Allow it to be what it is, a space of movement and growth. Be in the present moment, be grounded and don't forget to have fun.