Control

As I allow my child to experience and explore the world around her, I also enjoy watching the world me and other parents. Playground is my school. I enjoy watching the interaction between the parents and the children as well as between the children. It's a miracle space.

My 19 month old daughter went to a boy and took his car. He didn't mind at all and as a matter of fact, he was enjoying the interaction and the communication from Kayla when his mom ran to Kayla, took the toy from her hand and gave it back to her child. It was very interesting for me to watch that from a space of neutrality. None of the children said anything but their communication was interrupted.

This brings up a topic that I talk about very often. Control. Many parents try to control everything, including their children and their surrounding. Looking at that event in the playground clairvoyantly, I see that this control energy doesn't allow the child to have SPACE. Space to create, to communicate, to destroy. As I write this, I remember a book about the indigenous people in South America and how they raise their children. They have full trust in their child, they allow the child to explore without any fear and I quote they don't have a concept of a "bad child", whatever child does is accepted as the act of a "right"creature.

I think, we are learning as parents, as human beings to stop trying to control everything and everyone around us. We are learning the concept of space and children teach us about space every day. Are you listening to your child?